This or That Questions

Play these free this or that questions to start a conversation in seconds. Press New pair, pick a side, and ask the other person why they chose differently. The game works well for shy and introverted people because the choices are small and low-pressure.

What are this or that questions?

This or that questions ask you to choose between two things. You might pick tea or coffee, beach or mountains, or early bird or night owl. People also search for this or that qs, this or that game and this or that questions for adults. This page covers all of them.

The format is simple. Because each choice is small, nobody feels judged. As a result, even a nervous player can join in at once.

How to play this or that questions

1. Choose a category. Pick All, or choose Fun, Food, Lifestyle, Work or Deep.
2. Press New pair. Two options appear side by side.
3. Pick a side. Tap the option you prefer. You can change your mind.
4. Ask the other person. Share your pick, then ask what they would choose and why.
5. Keep playing. Press New pair for the next round, or save pairs you like.

The five categories

• Fun: playful pairs about pets, movies, seasons and travel.
• Food: tasty pairs about drinks, meals and snacks.
• Lifestyle: everyday choices about routines, plans and places.
• Work: pairs for teams, classrooms and meetings.
• Deep: thoughtful pairs about values, time and friendship.

Why this or that questions help shy people

Open questions can feel heavy, because you must invent an answer. A choice between two options is easier. You only need to say A or B. Therefore, the game lowers the pressure to speak.

The second step is where the real conversation begins. Ask “why?” and listen to the reason. Furthermore, share a short reason of your own. This builds a back-and-forth rhythm that carries into other topics.

Ways to play

• Quick fire: take turns and answer in one second with no explanation.
• Explain your pick: give one short reason for each choice.
• Team vote: ask a group to pick a side, or to type A or B in the chat.
• Meeting warm-up: start a call with one Work pair to help everyone speak early.
• Message game: send a pair in a group chat and see who answers first.

Tips for funny and friendly play

Funny this or that questions work best when everyone feels safe. Keep the tone kind, and never mock a pick. Additionally, accept that there is no right answer. A pair for friends can also suit a first meeting, as long as the options stay light.

If you play with new people, start with Food and Fun. Move to Lifestyle and Deep when the group relaxes. In contrast, jump to Deep too early and some players may feel exposed.

Keep the conversation going

After a round, pick one answer and ask a follow-up. For example, if someone chooses mountains, ask about their favourite trip. Read our guides on conversation starters for more ideas, and learn why small talk matters.

More free tools

Want open-ended prompts? Use the random question generator or the random topic generator. If you wonder why you answer the way you do, take the introvert vs extrovert test. Our editorial policy explains how we write and review every page on Timid.

Sample this or that questions

Here are ten pairs from the game. Read them out loud, then ask “why?” after each pick.

• Tea or coffee?
• Beach or mountains?
• Cats or dogs?
• Early bird or night owl?
• Text or call?
• Big party or small dinner?
• Work from home or work from an office?
• Plan everything or go with the flow?
• Speak up or listen first?
• Comfort or adventure?

Press New pair on the game above for the other 50. Furthermore, each category suits a different moment, so try them all.

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